21 questions to ask and answer when you turn 21 years old

#4. What does good health look like — is it enough to have a body that looks good in a swimsuit or do I want a sharp mind and a strong body that will hold my soul?

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It isn’t pleasant being 21 — to some people you’re a child and to many others, you’re an improperly formed adult. Neither of these labels can capture the glorious mess that being 21 really represents.

There is a sense of urgency to get somewhere in life while there is also a feeling of having ‘arrived’, while not quite knowing where exactly.

Over the years I’ve collected memories, experiences and lived through my share of adversity to realize that there are a few things I wish I had decided for myself when I was 21.

This article aims to help you with this process of defining the kind of person you want to grow into.

I present to you 21 questions that you need to answer for yourself to make sense of a rapidly changing world.

I’m no longer 21 years old but I keep returning to these questions whenever I need to center myself. I hope that these questions will serve you in a similar fashion.

Let’s get into it.

  1. In my life, do I want ‘privilege’ to mean wealth, legacy and power or do I want it to mean the various acts of kindness I’ve performed and the lives I’ve impacted in a positive manner?

The key to really leverage these questions is to answer honestly. No one else needs to know the answers to these but you. Just make sure you’re being completely real with yourself, especially when it isn’t easy.

And most importantly, remember you wont be 21 years old forever. Enjoy the uncertainty and the thrill of it. And no matter how old you are when you’re reading this — remember that it always gets better.

Breathe. Do your best!

Author of 'How to be a Lighthouse'. I write for those pursuing excellence and meaning.